Respect

Are you the type of person that will only give respect to a person whom you feel deserves it, or do you respect everyone. I always see people complaining about how little trust and respect that they receive from their partner.
If you only give respect when you feel it's deserved, then how do you know when the person is deserving of your respect? If that's the case, does that mean we all should respect no one, until a person proves that he or she is worthy of your respect?
I feel that respect should first start within ourselves. I've seen a lot of women refer to themselves as negative names ...so does that make it okay for men to refer to us in a negative manner as well. If we don't first change the way we feel about ourselves, then we are destined to never receive the respect we deserve as humans. Men are the same way, especially black men --you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, and sometimes I see black men who don't give themselves the credit that they deserve.
Don't feed into the negative portrayal that the media gives us as black people, respect yourselves, and we should all respect one another ....lord knows the rest of the world sure doesn't.