Respect

Are you the type of person that will only give respect to a person whom you feel deserves it, or do you respect everyone. I always see people complaining about how little trust and respect that they receive from their partner.
If you only give respect when you feel it's deserved, then how do you know when the person is deserving of your respect? If that's the case, does that mean we all should respect no one, until a person proves that he or she is worthy of your respect?
I feel that respect should first start within ourselves. I've seen a lot of women refer to themselves as negative names ...so does that make it okay for men to refer to us in a negative manner as well. If we don't first change the way we feel about ourselves, then we are destined to never receive the respect we deserve as humans. Men are the same way, especially black men --you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, and sometimes I see black men who don't give themselves the credit that they deserve.
Don't feed into the negative portrayal that the media gives us as black people, respect yourselves, and we should all respect one another ....lord knows the rest of the world sure doesn't.

Selling Yourself...

     When we're first starting a relationship, I think we all sell ourselves to a certain point --meaning that we all put our best foot foward in an effort to try to impress the person we're dating. We all do that "something extra," like those six inch platforms she wore on the first date, or that really nice place he took you to when he first started dating you.
     But sometimes, these "impressions" turn into a little bit more, and people start to actually sale themselves. This leads to my questions, do you sale yourself, and if so, what is your price tag? Would you actually be willing to sale yourself for financial security?
     I've seen a lot of women go against their own morale for secure finances. He cheats on her, and has has children with multiple women while they're in a relationship, but she accepts it because he buys her a Benz and Dior??? With as many diseases as there are floating around the world, you'd think that people would care about their own well being before life's luxuries before they'd even think about next season's Prada --but the scary part is that they don't.
     I've also seen men go broke trying to buy a Barbie. How much are you willing to pay out for a perfect piece of arm candy? Are bragging rights and good sex really that important to you, or is it the feeling of being needed that you value so much? What about the ways that some of these women would disrespect you: I've actually seen women tell men that if they don't bring home a certain amount, then she'll leave and find someone who does... if you know that she's just in it for the cash, why bother?
     I guess my final questions is this... What's more important: yourself, or Channel?

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XOXO
Love, M

Deal Breakers

     I always wonder why people waste time one relationships trying to be with someone that they're not meant to be with in the first place. They meet someone whom they think is attractive, and then lower their standards to be with this person. Sometimes I wonder if people actually have deal breakers anymore. If you don't have deal breakers, then I think that maybe you should set yourself some standards. If you're a smart independent woman, it might not be the best idea to date a man with no job, goals, and ambition. If you're an established confident man, it might not be the best idea to date the girl you see dropping it at the club every night.
     I've met people that say that they're only dating a particular person for "right now," but actually have no intention on marrying that person, or even being with that person long term, because the person doesn't fit their ideal standards.
     Sometimes I wonder if the reason that people go against their deal breakers is because they have a need to be needed in a relationship. If that's the case, do we want a life partner, or are we all just settling for a grown kid to raise?

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Love Conquers All

Omnia Vincit Amor –Love Conquers All

It’s my belief that most people never find love because they have no idea what love actually is. Love IS NOT an emotion. Love is not a temporary feeling that changes from one feeling to another, and it is not a high that gives people momentary orgasms and erections. Love is a force, or energy that is a gift from God, which cannot be destroyed by man. Love is a noun, and adjective, and a verb; which means the word could fulfill almost any position in a sentence… it works the exact same way in a heart –it fills voids. If a person is blessed enough to receive such a gift, and they treasure it, then it can give a person an overwhelming amount of joy and completion, as well as the ability to conquer any obstacle that may enter loves path.

I hear a lot of people that would say that love is the complete opposite of what I just said, and I could respect their opinion… but I hurt for our generation who feel this way because they’ve never known love. Our mothers were single, and are currently seeking love as well. Women have no guide on how to treasure a man, and there are no men to teach their sons the value of a woman. Because of this, I think that people no longer know their roles in a relationship, and love has no chance to develop due to relationships being over so quickly. It could also be because we’re all in love with the idea of love, and fall in love with illusions, or lust causes us all to know more pain from love than joy.

Instead people confuse love with sex, because it's all we know... and sex doesn't fill any voids, nor does it make a person love, respect, or cherish you. Sex doesn't really conquer any obstacles, expect for occasional blue balls, and no matter how great you think you are at it, sex only produces a temporary joy.

**But I’ll end my blog on that note, because I have to keep it short and sweet for people who have ADD like ME! ;-)

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XOXO …Thanks For Reading J

Love, M